Learning to be alone is ridiculously powerful. – AUDIO NSFW
What I want to talk with you guys about today is 3 reasons why learning to be alone is ridiculously powerful. Learning to be alone is ridiculously powerful. We live—and I don’t have to explain this too much to you guys—in a day and age where there is constant activity coming in to your brain, constant active stimuli coming into your brain, visual stimuli, audible stimuli. So much of this is self-induced because we wear these symbols, these signs, these marks of the beast around with us all the time. They’re called cell phones.
These cell phones move us to check things, to constantly inundate active stimuli. To be alone is powerful. Not to be misconstrued by the way with being lonely. Actually, if I were to be frank, whenever you feel lonely, that’s probably one of the best times to lean in to this idea of being alone and to embrace it.
Why? Why is it important for us to be alone? Because we need to learn how to think. We need to learn how to read. We need to learn how to meditate. We need to learn how to sit. These are all intentional acts of exercising the mind. That is what I’m talking about. That learning to be alone is learning to create intentional acts of exercising the mind. We are too much in a state of consumption in today’s world, guys. We are always in a state of consumption. We’re consuming media from Twitter, from Facebook, from Instagram, from Snapchat, from TikTok, from LinkedIn.
We’re constantly consuming. One of the problems with this isn’t that we never really have the time to digest and to think and let it sit there and marinate and wonder and consider how this stuff is affecting us.
Let’s just jump right into some of the studies. Clearly, studies have shown that learning to be alone helps you with your empathy. It increases happiness and self-satisfaction in life. It helps you increase your ability to deal with stress, stress management. Learning to be alone decreases depression. This stuff all makes sense. We live in a hyper-connected world. We live in a world where things are constantly being thrown in our face. It is hard for us to be alone. I find it fascinating.
I find it fascinating that certain individuals that I know, friends of mine, that it is fundamentally clear that these individuals cannot be alone. It is impossible for them to be alone. The reason is there’s a multiplicity of reasons, but I’ll tell you two very distinctly.
One of the first reasons why it is impossible for them to be alone is because they have actually never trained that muscle of being alone. They have constantly surrounded themselves with other people, constantly taking in their advices, constantly taking in their inputs, constantly melding themselves to the crowd. These are the type of people that can’t live without other people. This is a sad dependency. This is a sad relational dysfunction that you literally can’t be alone to yourself or you go crazy.
These people have behaviorally trained themselves to suck and to leech off others. It sounds like a bad thing, I mean, it is a bad thing, but they don’t see it as a bad thing. They just can’t be alone because they rely and this is a bad thing. They rely on others. They’re dependent on others.
The second reason is because these people are afraid of what’s in their own head. Why I say it that way is because these people have hurts in their past. They have massive scars than their past that when they are alone, these demons rise. They come up from the grave and they attack. Many men and many women would rather never deal with it until it’s far too late, until it’s poisoned and destroyed their lives.
Guys, I think for those who know me and I think if you were to take any guesses in terms of just looking at me doing these types of podcast, these types of shows, it’s fundamentally clear that I have learned to be alone.
I’m gonna give you right now the 3 reasons why I believe that learning to be alone is power. This is just coming from my experience guys.
- Being alone increases your self-awareness.
You have to sit and deal with yourself. I think most people haven’t ever had to really face themselves in years. Are you afraid on what you might find like some of the guys that I know? Are you afraid of what you’ll find? Are you afraid what you’ll see? Are you afraid what you’ll uncover? Are you afraid what scars might come up? Deal with it. Deal with it.
If you’re listening out there, please don’t miss this. It is so fascinating to me that people want to find other people to be with. That they believe will help fix them, will help make their lives better. Especially when it comes to dating, when it comes to girlfriend-boyfriend, these types of things, people are always looking for that perfect one.
Well, guess what, brother? Guess what sister? That other person on the other end, they’re looking for the perfect one too! And you’re not that. You’re not that person. You know why? Because you haven’t done any self-care. You haven’t been self-aware. You hadn’t improved yourself. You haven’t dealt with yourself.
I find it fascinating that people are always looking for someone else to help fix them, someone else to help make life perfect. Once I find that girl once, I find that guy, everything’s gonna be right. Well, that perfect guy or girl has probably done a lot of self-care. They’re probably highly self-aware. You know what? They’re not looking for you because you’re not right with yourself. Does that make sense?
Here’s a quote.”The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely, or unhappy is to go outside somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature, and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be.” That’s Anne Frank.
Anne Frank, this girl, Anne Frank, who spent two years from 1942 to 1944 in hiding during the German occupation of the Netherlands in World War II had the gall, had the audacity to write something like this about self-awareness and being alone. She said the best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely, or unhappy is to go outside somewhere they can be quiet alone with the heavens, nature, and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be.
Anne Frank is a stalwart example of someone even in the midst of contextual strife, war, death, can still be self-aware and alone and have peace. She was able to heal. She was able to see the world for what it really was at that time. Being alone avails you the opportunity to be self-aware. Deal with yourself. Deal with yourself.
Get over your hurts, get over your pains, relive those scarring moments, move over, reprogram yourself. Reprogram yourself from those hurts and change it. We’ve talked about this before in self programming. Self-program those hurts into positives. Be self-aware. Deal with life so that you can be in a better position to take advantage of opportunities. To be open to opportunities. Not to be in a constant consumption state where you’re always consuming and never ready to give, never ready to go, you haven’t exercised the muscle of action.
- You get to learn to think for yourself.
I cannot tell you how many people I have met even friends that I have had where it is clear that their entire life is dictated to them from other people, whether it’s parents, aunts, cousins, some influence, friends. Don’t care. But these brothers, sisters can not, will not think for themselves.
When you learn to be alone, when you learn to sit and think or read or meditate or just sit there and stare—this is what I do a lot—you become empowered to make your own life decisions. Let your heart decide where you want to go, who you want to be, what you want to do. Think for yourself for fuck’s sake!
You got a limited time on this planet. Why are you letting some other people dictate the process, dictate the flow, dictate the path, dictate the future of your life? That’s craziness!
Let me give you another quote from a German philosopher, Arthur Schopenhauer. He said, “A man that can be himself only as long as he is alone. And if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom. For it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”
Think for yourself. Think for yourself. Be yourself. Think for yourself. You don’t need to fix others. You don’t need to heal others. You don’t need to help others. You certainly don’t need to save others. This is something that I struggled with. What I struggle with is I feel like everyone needs to be saved. I’ll be honest with it. Why do you think I’m giving out all of my heart, all of my soul in these daily podcast, these daily shows? Because I feel like there’s so much in me that I need to extracted all before I die and someone’s gonna miss it. I don’t know who it is. I don’t know if it’s even worthwhile.
Do you know something that I struggle with? I don’t mind sharing it with you. Again, I share it with you guys all the time. I feel like the world needs saving. I think people need saving. That’s why I build stuff to help people. That’s why I build stuff to build and create stuff that can improve people’s lives. That’s why I create these podcasts and give it away for free. Ain’t nobody monetized here. Ain’t nobody making any money here. I struggle with it, man. I don’t need to fix people. I don’t need to heal. I don’t need to help others. I don’t need to save other people. Save myself, save yourself, fix you first!
Remember what I said when it comes to self-awareness? Fixe you first. Don’t try to find someone else that’s gonna fix your life. They’re never gonna fix your life. If you find the perfect person, trust me, they ain’t looking for you because you’re not the perfect person because you haven’t worked on yourself. You haven’t fixed yourself.
- You can have peace.
You deal with yourself. When you aren’t able to think for yourself, you can have peace. You can have peace. Peace comes when you are able to think for yourself and when you have self-awareness of who you are. Because when you know who you are and when you have empowered yourself to think for yourself, then you will know two things: 1, you are good solid. You are healed. You are whole. You are free.
Let me help you understand what I mean by good. When I say good, it means you’re solid—mentally physically, healthy, spiritually. You understand the scars. You understand who you are. You understand your strengths, your weaknesses and what you’re good at. You’re solid. You know yourself. You know you’re good. That’s power. When you can think for yourself, you’re not slave to other people’s thoughts, slave to communist news network, in a slave to mass media, then you’re free.
When you are good and you are free, what can you do with this power? What can you do with the power of knowing that you are solid, you are good, and that you are free to think and do as you may? That’s the question for you guys today.
That is what comes out of learning to be alone in your thoughts writing notes like this like my notebook. When you are alone, when you learn to be alone, you have time to think for yourself. You’ve time to read and learn from others. You’ve time to meditate on the goals and the future you want. You have time to sit and marinate and deal with the issues of life.
When you come through all that and you are able to be alone, you will have peace in life and you will be powerful. So the question I have to ask you is what could you do with that power? What can you do with the power of knowing who you truly are and what you’re capable of and that you have the ability because you’re free to do it? What would you do with that power?
This is Peter, the Bitcoin Lambo. If you liked this episode, smash the like button, subscribe and share this with one person in your network today. Maybe just maybe, he needs to learn how to be alone and to deal with themselves.